Key Tips for Living Through a Protracted Divorce

Key Tips for Living Through a Protracted Divorce

Your divorce proceedings won’t last forever – but they can certainly drag on for years and years. In fact, the longest divorce case went on for an unfathomable 21 years! The battle lasted so long that dozens of jury members passed away before ever seeing the end of the debacle. Unfortunately, if you have a high-conflict ex-partner, then chances are they’ll do everything they can to continue to abuse and harass you, even using the legal system to do so if they can get away with it. For that reason, you need a very strong and trauma-informed lawyer who will fight by your side and block any ridiculous legal challenges brought forth by your former spouse. 

As your lawyer fights for you in court, you need to fight for yourself, your health, and your peace of mind. Below, we’ll go over five important tips to help you stay sane during a protracted divorce. There’s no doubt that deciding to get a divorce was a gut-wrenching choice. Once you started to push forward with your decision, you likely thought things would start to get better. Unfortunately, a protracted divorce will not only cost you time and take a financial toll but can also take a significant mental and physical toll. 

With that in mind, the best thing you can do is start to focus on your own self-care. Take your power back by improving your mental and physical health one day at a time. Take that long, hot, steamy shower. Take time for both relaxation and physical activity. Splurge on that fancy meal or concert tickets! Keep up the good work, and your mind and body will thank you for it. 

It’s equally important to build up a strong support system, which you may have lacked throughout your divorce. Reconnect with family members or friends that you haven’t been prioritizing. Start to focus on growing and building these new relationships, especially non-romantic ones. These relationships can help you re-focus your energy on building your new life rather than focusing on what you’ve lost and what your ex-spouse continues to try to do. 

When you’re in the throes of a chaotic divorce, it’s easy to point out all the things that are going wrong in your life. Your strife, struggles, and discomfort will all be apparent. What won’t be so easy to see are the things that are going right at the moment, and why practicing mindful gratitude can do wonders for your mental health. Take time to notice what is good around you to bring you satisfaction and happiness. 

Another great tip to help you survive and thrive through this is to start making brand new goals. Start envisioning the future you want to see. Then, think about how you can get there from where you are right now. What baby steps can you start taking right now to help support the future you want to see? Write those goals down and start making moves. Redirecting your focus will help you get through this trying time. 

If you’re struggling mentally or emotionally, then consider looking for a counselor, therapist, or coach who can provide extra guidance and support. There are tons of experts who specialize in traumatic relationships and lengthy divorces. These experts will be able to provide greater support than friends or family members who may not fully understand or relate to what you’re going through. 

Ciyou & Associates, P.C. provides comprehensive family law services that cover all stages of the marital and familial life cycle. From pre- and post-nuptial agreements to child custody, divorce litigation and mediation, Ciyou & Associates, P.C. is well versed in family law. The attorneys at Ciyou & Associates, P.C. are experienced in navigating the complexities of family law and will provide personalized counsel that meets your individual needs. We recognize that family law matters can be highly charged with emotion and every situation is unique. Our goal is to guide our clients through the process in a way that preserves as much stability for their family as possible. 

We understand that you may need not only legal advice, but also emotional support during this difficult time. Our attorneys are dedicated to your case and will work with you every step of the way to ensure that your rights and interests are protected. This blog was written by attorneys at Ciyou & Associates, P.C. who handle legal matters and appeals from all of Indiana’s ninety-two (92) counties. It is written for general educational purposes. It is not to be relied upon for any specific legal matter or issues. This blog is not legal advice. It is an advertisement.  


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