Never discount or underestimate the depths of your emotions after a divorce. For many, divorce is a traumatic life event, especially when it leads to a deep sense of loss, significant distress, and shock. The good news is that you can overcome the grief, rebound, and rebuild your life. The question is – how do you move on with your life after a divorce? There is no simple or straightforward answer to this question, as moving on will take time, effort, dedication, and continued optimism on your part. Empower yourself to start taking small steps forward by using our six tips below.
Once your divorce gets rolling, everything can suddenly feel overwhelming. Everything you once knew is likely in a state of flux, which can be a good or bad thing depending on your perspective and how you handle it. To help stabilize everything, start making plans. Write down some goals, track how you plan on becoming independent, and remain consistent in taking steps towards creating your new life. Considering you’re likely feeling a bit stressed and depressed, some of the best advice is to get moving! Incorporate some physical activity into your daily routine. Start small, even if it means taking a walk around your neighborhood every day. This small but consistent effort will, in time, start to help improve your mental and physical health. Moving will help your body deal with any mental anxiety you’re struggling with, too.
Another great tip to help you move on is to put more focus on your financial life goals. You can boss up and start to change your life by switching gears and putting more hours into either your main career or any side hustles you have. Earning some extra money can help you fund your new independent lifestyle, and it will also give you some much-needed distraction from feeling alone.
Focusing on your physical and financial goals is important, but it’s equally important to focus on your mental health, too. You can help ensure that you’re staying mentally healthy by keeping up with regular meals, ensuring that you’re getting enough sleep, prioritizing relationships with friends or family members, and doing things that make you feel happy and fulfilled. It’s normal to feel sadness after a divorce, so let yourself experience the negative and unpleasant emotions that come along with the divorce. Just be sure to offset that negativity with some positive, self-affirming care.
Old habits and hobbies inevitably come with past memories. Considering those past memories can be triggering, you might start to avoid some of your favorite activities, hangout spots, and restaurants. You can start to build new memories and experiences by exploring totally new interests, areas, and hobbies. Taking this step can help you start fresh, and it can also have the added benefit of reducing the risk that you’ll run into your ex.
Did you know that changing up your environment can help inspire you to change? If you’re ready to start rebuilding and healing, a vacation may provide the reset and perspective you need! Post-divorce travel can help you start to move on by giving you distance from your partner, showing yourself that you can be independent and strong, giving you time and space to grieve the relationship before returning to work, and helping you start to re-frame your divorce in a positive light. Traveling will make you feel empowered and in control of the direction of your new life. It can also give you the mental clarity you need to reflect on your former relationship and figure out how you want your future to look.
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