Helpful Tips for Navigating High Conflict Custody Battle

Custody matters can be an emotionally exhausting process, especially when it is a high conflict matter. High conflict custody battles can truly take a toll on all members involved. While it is easy to be consumed by a high conflict custody matter, there are some ways to mitigate the stressors associated. The assistance of a knowledgeable attorney can promote useful tips in navigating the custody battle. This blog discusses helpful coping tips for navigating high conflict custody battles.

One of the most helpful tips that may seem obvious is to maintain a child-focused perspective throughout the custody matter. During a high conflict custody battle it can be easy to forget what you are “fighting for” and it is crucial that the focus on your child(ren) is maintained throughout. Your child is your main concern in a custody battle, thus approaching each dispute from the angle of your child’s wellbeing and what is the best outcome for them is paramount. Consequently, focusing more on “punishing” the other parent rather than the benefit of the child will result in more stress and exhaustion. Additionally, if you maintain your focus on your child’s wellbeing then you will less likely be distracted by unnecessary conflicts with the other party.

Another tip that goes hand in hand with the child-focused perspective is to choose your battles wisely. In a high conflict custody battle it is inescapable that there will be tension and various disagreements. It is important to understand that not every issue needs to be fought over, nor does it need to occupy your thoughts for very long. While seemingly obvious, you need to know what your priorities are such as physical custody, legal custody, and decision-making responsibilities for your child. Make sure you are putting your primary efforts toward those main priorities and let go of the smaller disagreements that will further aggravate the custody battle. 

If you are familiar with custody matters then you know the importance of documentation. Document everything. Detailed documentation of relevant events that are crucial to your custody matter such as conversations, disagreements, medical documents, financial documents, educational materials, etc. If you have counsel, then they can help you maintain and organize your documents and ensure that your record is preserved and clear to the parties and Judge. This leads to the final tip, hire an experienced attorney who is more than familiar with high conflict custody matters. As previously mentioned, high conflict custody matters come with a lot of emotions and stress, not to mention the complexity of the matter. The help of an attorney who advocates for you and your child is important and can help alleviate some of your stress. 

High conflict custody battles are inherently demanding, and it is not something that you have to do alone. It is important to keep in mind these tips for your own sanity while going through a difficult time. Legal counsel can help keep your focus prioritized on your child’s wellbeing and assist in advocating in your custody matter. The attorneys at Ciyou & Associates, P.C. have ample experience navigating high conflict custody matters throughout Indiana. We are here to assist you in your custody battle. This blog was written by attorneys at Ciyou & Associates, P.C. and this blog is not intended as specific legal advice or a solicitation of services, as this is an advertisement.


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